Time Can't Heal

• by Courtney
• 5 years ago

Now that I'm grown, I regret treating her the way I did, because I have daughters of my own, and I see now that it wasn't that she didn't love me. I still do not agree with how she handled showing her love towards her children. There should be no favoritism shown, and you should not love one more than the other in my opinion, but overall, being that my mother went through what she went through as a child, I say she did superb. If you want the relationship with your daughter back, the best advice I can give you is don't focus on what she's done to you, but focus on what maybe you could've done to her to make her this way towards you. When you're alone, meditate on your relationship with her and if you honestly don't know what you've done, then ask God to send an angel to reveal them to you. Ask Him for His mercy. God will never deny us His mercy. It will get better. Tell yourself and believe it.

• by Courtney
• 5 years ago

Hello, Barbara. I'm sorry your daughter has treated you this way. I hope that since it has been a year that you wrote this, things have gotten better. As a younger teen and adult, I was very ugly toward my mother just like the way you described yours. When I was growing up, I was molested by my uncle more times than I can count. I always wondered as my mom was dropping me off with him why she couldn't see his odd behavior toward me or see me screaming inside for help. Over and over I was traumatized by this man. Someone I was supposed to trust. I felt like that back then my mother didn't care about me or love me as much as my other sibling, so I never confided in her, and I always pushed her away. As I got older, my anger toward her grew, to the point I would call her names. Terrible names. I don't have room for everything, just know mental illness is real, and there is a reason for her behavior.