Love At Last

• by Verenice Renteria Carrillo
• 5 years ago

In 1999 at the age of 23 years old, I met a young attractive police officer in a small town. He moved in and married me by February 2000. I became pregnant with my second daughter, Stephanie. At only 1 month of age, I realized my husband was having an affair with a District Attorney. They were corrupt and took my baby girl. I ended up incarcerated, lost my child, became homeless, and he annulled our marriage. Now in 2019, my daughter is 18. I found her on social media, and she wants nothing to do with me. They have fed her their lies, but in Jesus' name, she will one day open her eyes.

• by Nicola
• 6 years ago

This poem really touched me because it sums up the way I feel about my estranged 18-year-old daughter. Three years ago, when my daughter was only 15, she decided out of the blue she didn't like me anymore and hasn't talked to me since. She moved out 6 months ago after her 18th birthday, and I don't know where to. She has blocked me on her phone and all social media, and I have no idea why. Despite having 3 younger children, I feel my life is incomplete without her in it, because I know something is missing. I just want her to be happy and healthy, and I hope one day she returns. We were always very close before, and she would accompany me everywhere. We would spend a lot of time together. I hope 1 day we get that closeness back.

• by Kember Kilgore
• 6 years ago

I got about halfway through the responses and had to stop reading. The totality of damage that people do to others is unbelievable. I wouldn't and haven't lost sleep when my kids tune me out for whatever reason. They are adults and can think for themselves. They know the difference between right and wrong, and if they choose to try and mess with my heart for selfish or even unrealistic purposes, so be it. They know how I feel about them, but no way will I succumb to manipulations from the crap they have picked up by other manipulators. What worked for others won't work for them. I would do anything for my kids, and they know it. We are not perfect, and we know it. If you allow your kids to walk all over you, then that is on you. Set up boundaries and live by them. It will teach something very valuable to your kids about being resilient.

• by Stephanie McGuire
• 7 years ago

My daughters and I never had a very close relationship when my children were younger. I was a drug addict. Now my daughter is grown, and she is a mother of her own. She is now facing cervical cancer and she's only 25. I don't know what I'll do if I were to lose her.

• by Melinda L. Mikan, Cape Coral Florida
• 7 years ago

I thought maybe my daughters would see this writing. I now need to realize that they are not going be in my life and if they only knew the truth I know they would understand everything, but they don't even want to know. My daughters are coping and living a life without me, the one they really need. I gave birth to both you girls, and I know you have some of me in your heart and that means you love and forgive. Just know I always wanted you both and still my life is never going to be full. I pray for you both and someday when you have a family maybe things will be clearer to both of you. I missed everything and never can get it back, but I love you both girls, and I will let you be. As much as it hurts, I know that is what you want. Ask your grandmother how many years I've tried finding you. For I guess I have to say goodbye know matter how bad it hurts to my daughters I've lost forever. I have my 2 flowers on my ankle so I can feel you every day. Mom

• by Melinda L. Mikan, Cape Coral Florida
• 7 years ago

This poem was very close to my heart. My ex-husband cheated on me. I couldn't deal with being unfaithful, so I divorced him and he begged me to stay. All the lies and deceit and him never coming home. I stayed home with our girls and they would ask where he was. I would lie and say he was stressed with work but he loves you and will get on track soon. Drunk all summer and lying to my kids so they wouldn't get hurt. Long story short, it back fired. He tried having me killed, had me followed for 5 years. It was horrible. I turned to drinking, made some bad choices, but he came up with stories why they didn't want to see me. Anyway this is a long story, but I haven't seen nor heard from my girls in 12 years. He stopped paying me (he never wanted me to work). I lived on the streets for a while. Anyway, I've been sober for 6 years on November 10 and just leaving my life in God's hands! I'm working on something for women in similar situations. Great poem and hoping my girls read it!! Thank you.

• by Jimmie Jinks
• 7 years ago

I lost my daughter when she was 3. She was adopted out 15 years ago. Then one day in May of this year I was surprised to get an invite to her graduation. Well, I went, and from that day we been inseparable. She and her boyfriend moved with me for 2 months. Then they moved back to our hometown. None of my family went to her graduation or even thought about her or even tries to find her but me. So when she moved to my hometown my family told her everything I've told her was a lie. I told her about my addiction, told her when they took her I turned to drugs to ease the pain of losing her. But everyone else is telling her something different. Now she doesn't think of me as her mother. She calls someone else mom. I've tried over and over to talk to her, but she won't listen to me. I've been crying for 4 days now. I feel like I lost her all over again. Before this we were like two peas in a pod. Now we don't talk. She changed her number and blocked me off of everything. Help me.

• by REBECCA DAVIS
• 8 years ago

I haven't seen my daughter in 20 years. I tried to find her, but I couldn't. I went on Facebook and tried there. This was in 2016. The last time I saw her was in the end of Sept 1990. Her dad took her from me in 1985 when she was 3 years. I lost custody; he got sole custody, and I got visitation rights. He convinced to the courts that I was an unfit mother, but I wasn't. I loved her so much. I didn't know what to do at that time. I went to Facebook on Aug 3. I found her, but she is so overwhelmed that she doesn't know what to think. I so much what to see her, but she doesn't want to see me. I don't know what to do.

• by Sara Demick
• 8 years ago

Me and my oldest daughter, have had a rocky relationship since she was about 14 ears. Unfortunately, I struggled with addiction, made mistakes, and, for that I am truly sorry. My daughter and I have tried to work things out, but, she never approves of me, no matter what I do. She is about to have her first child, and, I've been there for her %100. In fact, I am always very supportive, emotionally and financially, when I'm able. What makes it even worse, is that my parents will not speak to me, its been 15 yrs. I'm not even the same person anymore. I tried to mend the relationship with my parents, with the support of a counselor, and, they flat out said no.
Right now, I just want to be on speaking terms with my child. I have been so excited about being a grandmother, but, it seems like she doesn't want me in her life. I love her very much, but, she has a high risk pregnancy, so, I don't wanna upset her. This poem made me cry, I feel so hopeless, about my Mom, and, my daughter.

• by Nancy Adams, Florida
• 8 years ago

I have two daughters , the youngest one had her first baby seven months ago. What started out as a misunderstanding went to a full blown fight, at least on my daughters side. To begin with, almost 16 yrs ago I got Systemic Lupus. I was in the hospital numerous times over the first 2-3 yrs . Then I got Fibromyalgia and many other diseases. I have what is called (brain fog). Not able to focus and complete a task. I get stressed out and overwhelmed and shut down I suffer from extreme fatigue, and if I don't get enough sleep I can literally fall asleep standing up! I have severe arthritis in my back, I have rheumatoid arthritis in my hands I am in pain all the time.
My daughter doesn't think that there is really anything wrong with me. When I try to explain to her the reason why I am late or can't come she just says she is sick and tired of hearing me use my illness as a excuse. I have tried to patch things up but she remains the same. What more can I do?

• by Cally Dickson, New Lexington Ohio
• 9 years ago

I have two daughters. The oldest one is currently pregnant with her second child. I have not seen her since about two years before the first child was born.That is not tearing my heart in pieces, but the youngest one. She is 22 years old now and it has been 5 years since I have seen her. She was always a child with a heart of gold, well that was until I made the big mistake. She decided she wanted to live with her father, my ex. When she was in 10th. He was being evicted at the time and she wanted to go to the same school. So, I let my ex move into my home and I moved to an empty house with my mother. As anyone can guess, my ex brain washed her. A year later she stopped visiting. Well after she graduated from high school I got my ex out of my home and sold it to my loving niece. I sent this in a letter to her today. I am thankful to know that I am not alone. May God give each one of us the strength we need to survive this heart ache.

• by A Desperately Sad Mum
• 10 years ago

My daughter is now is her 30's emigrated abroad and has 4 adorable very young boys. A couple of years ago she became desperately ill so I went over to help look after her and them while her husband worked. It was the worst decision of my life. I did everything for her looking after the boys, taking & picking them up from school & pre-school, taking them to different after school activities and looking after the youngest who wasn't at school. Cleaning, 3 washings a day and all that entails as well as shopping, dog walking etc, etc. Before I arrived she had friends bringing them meals every day but once I arrived the meals ended and the other Granny's involvement continued but at a lesser extent. I am a hopeless cook whereas my daughter is an expert. She expected me to cook and on hindsight I should have said from the start that I'd do anything but that. I didn't so there was a huge hullabaloo about that so I cooked and I know the meals weren't up to their standards so the other Granny had to step in. Despite all nothing I did was good enough, fault was looked for at every turn and no matter how much I took into account the desperation she must have felt at not being able to do things herself (she is a very hands on Mum) the more I tried the more wrong I did. I got shouted at and exasperation comments at every turn.
This lasted a few weeks until I had to return. Her husband took me to the airport and not a word of thanks from either of them.
My daughter and I did hug but we were both choked up too much to say anything to each other. We now Skype but mostly with our grandsons on the screen. When she speaks I can hear the anger still in her voice most of the time. If anyone reads this and has any suggestions what I can do to try and get back some of the love we used to have I would greatly appreciate it, bearing in mind that we live thousands of miles apart. I thank God that she hasn't cut me off from my grandsons and that's a huge blessing and relief.
Of course there is always 2 sides to a story and I wasn't completely blameless. I know I irritated her no end. NB
I have a son and 2 other daughters, before she left the 4 of them were great friends. Since she left their relationships quickly deteriorated and although all are on Skype and Facebook they never communicate. It's all very heartbreaking.
Yes, I have a loving husband but he is the silent type and anytime a broach the subject he just says there's nothing you can do so just leave it. Is that the only answer?

• by Sheryl, NJ
• 10 years ago

My daughter and I grew apart when she was young. We hardly spoke and she always had a chip on her shoulder. When she turned 18, she told me she was going to Canada and needed a special auto insurance card that's required. That's the only reason I knew she was going. That night I received a picture of her finger with an engagement ring on it. I never even met the boy. She had already been dress shopping and making the plans for months with her mother in law and bridesmaids and excluded me. She didn't acknowledge me in the invitations or ceremony.
I know I made mistakes but she is punishing me to the point that it's all I can think about and I cry all the time.
I tried writing my own poem but couldn't find the words. This poem says everything I need so desperately to tell her. I am going to put this in a card and send it. I hope I will hear from her but won't get my hopes up. I want to have a relationship with my future grandchildren and it would devastate me if she wouldn't allow it.

• by Sarah, UK
• 10 years ago

This has given me the strength to reach out to my mother and try to repair a truly strained relationship.
Thank you

• by Nicky, Dorset England
• 10 years ago

This poem is exactly how I'm feeling with my 18 year old daughter every word describes how I feel. After years of a very unhappy marriage I met a very special man and had an affair which I know is very wrong. I came clean and my husband told me to leave the family home. I still see my 4 children regularly which I am very grateful for after what I did, my daughter and I are struggling with our relationship now and I miss her terribly we were always very close, unfortunately her dad has brain washed the children against me, I hope in time we can be close again.

• by Jmcgra10ster
• 10 years ago

I absolutely love this poem!! I have been in and out of court since my daughter was 6. Her father has brainwashed her, and FOC has written up the same in a psychological evaluation. I can't win. I am not perfect, yet he is not either. I give any free time I have to her. They both wait for ONE mistake for me to make and then she disappears. I recently told her she could go live with him. I thought that would make her happy, yet now she doesn't speak to me at ALL. I have a full time career, attend grad school, and dedicate time with my daughter with her and her friends. I don't know what reality is any more. I do know I am not perfect, but her friends adore me, and tell her to stop hurting me. I sent her this poem today, yet still no response. I feel as though if she rejects me she makes her father happy. It's so sad. He was emotionally abusive when we were married and I am terrified that he is doing this to her, without her maturity to notice. It's devastating. I am so hurt, not without fault, yet no more than any married mother. He told me "If you ever leave me you will never see your kid again". He meant it and is doing anything in his power to fulfill this.

• by Patty, Missouri
• 11 years ago

It's 4:00 am I have lost many hours sleep over my daughter and grandson for 3 months. I know to some of you that doesn't seem like long. But to me it is forever. This poem is perfect...Thank you

• by Cathy, Texas
• 11 years ago

Beautiful, beautiful, and I wish I could give you a huge hug, because being a mom is the hardest job one will ever do. Some aren't so good at it, and when they realize it, change comes. GOOD FOR THEM! Some don't have a clue (as we heard). And some did what they could to give them a stable home, one of love, of God, of something that would give them a good start in life...and it still doesn't work. I gave my health for my children, literally. Against doctors wishes. I would do it again. But when there is nothing but ugliness and dis-respect to the two who did all they could to raise their children, then there isn't anything we can do. Pray that God will change their hearts. Only HE can do that. It hurt our whole family when it was written that "her church family was now her family". Sure enough, it was proven this year. Few days left of life, but it was caught in time, and nothing. No time to help. My son was in anguish, as we were too.

• by Gina L, Georgia
• 11 years ago

I immediately started crying when I read this. My relationship with my daughter has always been tumultuous at best. She is due with her son next month. We don't talk or have any type of relationship and my heart breaks daily. Thank you for Your beautiful poem.

• by Silki Wales
• 11 years ago

This poem released my tears it is beautiful. Mother's unconditional love is never broken, yet our children can break us. I long for the day feeling loved by my child and it breaks my heart feeling that whatever I do I feel rejected and it is never right for my lovely girl. She now has her own lovely family and which I am gladly part of and see my grandchildren. Yet I feel I am more tolerated than loved. Money buys you nothing. It cannot buy love only patience and time might turn the dial. I live in hope xxx My heart goes out to all of you who also find this poem and who is hurt xxx

• by Barbara, Oregon
• 11 years ago

I am shocked and saddened at how many mothers/daughters are not speaking, etc. My granddaughter has cut off my daughter. Sends back cards trying to make amends. Sends back packages sent to grandchildren. Never dreamed this kind of thing could possibly happen in our family. It is effecting the whole family..and my granddaughter doesn't seem to realize or care that it is tearing everyone apart...or perhaps that is her goal? I feel the whole thing is petty...I've heard both sides...and believe me it IS petty! My daughter has no choice but to seek legal help and invoke "grandparents rights". I know this probably won't help my daughter's and granddaughter's relationship...but my daughter needs to continue her relationship with her grandchildren...and they need to know their grandparents, aunts and uncles and cousins. I hate to see what she is doing to her own children by cutting off a loving family network. Good luck to other daughters/mothers who might go this route!

• by Chris, Belgium
• 11 years ago

Two days before mothers day, I found this beautiful poem. It expresses exactly how I feel, I've been looking for the right words for almost 1 year now. Because that is the time I haven't seen my youngest daughter, now 24. June 12th 2012 was the last day I saw her, she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy in August 2012. I haven't seen my grandson yet, and if it was up to her, I never will. And all of this hurts so much, knowing we always had a wonderful mother/daughter relationship, until she met this guy, the father of her son. From that moment on, all that matters is his family. We argued about this, and that is the reason why she won't have any contact with me anymore. She wrote me a letter via FB, saying she loved me deeply, but she is tired of the fighting and won't have anything to do with me anymore. It has been a tough year, with more downs than ups. And today, being mothers day, it is like the words from this poem are torn out of my heart.

• by Kandi
• 11 years ago

Thank you for sharing this beautiful poem..."feelings from your heart."
Reading this brought tears to my eyes. I am a mother of 4. Two boys...two girls.
My husband and I separated 3 years ago and share joint custody of all 4 children, however 2 reside with him and 2 with me.
My older daughter is now 17. We used to be close until the separation, and her father being so laid back, she has gotten herself into some things that I don't approve of. I am the one who found out, and when she was confronted, I am "the bad" parent.
In counseling now and putting our feelings on the table. Looking now for ways to reconnect with my beautiful girl.
In a way reading other people's stories gives me a bit of comfort knowing I'm not the only one feeling lost and helpless.

• by Kathy
• 11 years ago

Love this poem. I too have been going through some things with my Daughter. I felt like I was the only one. I tried to accept her boyfriend, but as things went on I saw he was not going to step up like a Man should. He lost his job (2) & continues to tell us he can't work. I have always gotten along with her unless it is with her Relationships. Her Father, brother & I see things she doesn't . I hope she sees it one day soon.

• by Kelly Mcnutt
• 11 years ago

I was looking for a poem for my daughter this Christmas when I found yours. I can feel your pain as it also mine. When my Daughter was growing up we were so close my mother-in-law would complain about it saying that if anything happened to me she would never get over it. Well, I did get sick with stage IV Lymphoma. My daughter blamed me for getting sick and "abandoning" her. Then I did something stupid and she moved out her senior year of high school and we've never gotten over it. She's a junior in college now and still rarely if ever speaks to me and will never come to see me. My heart is broken but I don't know how to fix this. Thank you so much for writing this poem and I pray for all of us that we may have our children back.

• by Mary Ann, South Africa
• 12 years ago

I was reading this poem and it made me cry. I have 3 wonderful children but unfortunately 2 don't speak to me, no fault of theirs. it was my doing.

I found out a few months ago that I would be a Granny both my daughters were pregnant so far one grandbaby is born, I'm not allowed to go see her, I can only see her on Facebook but she is my world already.

• by Angel, Ohio
• 12 years ago

This is simply a beautiful poem. To the writer, it comes from a place of healing.
I miss, adore & love my daughter. My prayer is that all Mother's reunite with their daughters.
Thanks for sharing & uplifting my spirits with your words.

• by Patty, San Diego
• 12 years ago

Parts of this poem is exactly what I'm feeling. My mother is a control freak and when she retired, she needed something to do with her time. I had just been accepted into a University and had 3 part jobs at the time. My mother wanted to help with my daughter who was 6 years at the time. What seemed innocent turned mean, and ugly overnight. I have full custody of my daughter now 13 years old, but rarely see her. The loss of my daughter has caused me severe depression and guilt. I shouldn't have to wait until my mother is dead, to take my daughter back!

• by Chris
• 12 years ago

I cried when I read this poem. I have been searching for the last week for the words to say, to not say, to do, not to do with my daughter. We have been broken now for a week without speaking. It seems we have been broken for decades and only came thru last week. I know she made a mistake and she is much like me, sticking to her decision to be married to an alcoholic. I just want our life to be happy again. Thank you for your poem, it spoke to my heart.

• by Vivian Walters, Sebastian
• 12 years ago

Great poem.
I have not seen my daughter for over twenty years,
Her father told her so many lies about me. I have tried for twenty years to call, email, cards letters everything to just talk to her. She had a son, that is seventeen years old now. I have never seen my grandson. It just breaks my heart. My heart has been broken for twenty years. I love her with all my heart and would give the world to just hug her one last time. My health is not good now. I don't want to leave this world and her live with the guilt that she will have.
We were so close when she growing up and I love her with all my heart. I just do not know what else I can do except pray everyday for a miracle. Does anyone have a suggestions? Thank you

• by Julie, CA
• 12 years ago

Thank you for this poem. I have been going through a similar situation. My daughter not only removed me from her life, but my granddaughters lives. Now there is a new granddaughter I have not even met. It tears me up everyday, especially since I lived with and helped raise the other 2. I just don't understand how a child could throw her mother out on the street and never even wonder if she is ok? What has happened to the family values???

• by Robin Kay
• 12 years ago

My daughter is almost 22 with a 2.4 yr old daughter of her own. She is my world and so is my granddaughter. I think she is my biggest fear of my life. I have taught all 3 of my children to always look in the mirror and love what you see. Her father and I are divorced and he has a girlfriend and I have been married to her step-father for almost 5 years. I lost myself in my previous marriage and we get along better now and that is why I believe that everyone should like the person they are and accept only love from those who appreciate and respect you for you. She grew up beautiful but free spirited and she scares me.

• by Tashi, Switzerland
• 12 years ago

You have written it in a very simple, very beautiful way so that every reader can get it. The thing that I most loved about your poem is that you have accepted what you have done wrong with your mom and you came to know what is a word "mom" is.

• by La Porte Indiana
• 12 years ago

Thank you for such a wonderful poem, For years my daughter thought I did not love her, it was the opposite, I loved her so deeply it hurt, she was always my little girl in my heart, I think we already got taken care off, but sometimes I feel that she is somewhat insecure, I hope you do not mind if I send her this poem, May God Bless All mothers and daughters.

• by Joanie, Blount
• 12 years ago

This poem really touched my heart. I have a mother that I love dearly. But we don't talk. Growing up I was very close to my mom and back then I would never have imagined we would be this far apart in our hearts today. I'm 41 and she is 61. Me and my 6 children respect my mom , I have a sis that has 2 boys . My mom lives with my sis and her children that disrespect and treat her badly. We have moved my mom in with us but she keeps running back to my sis . It hurts me so bad to see her treated so wrong so I chose to not have her in my life. But I can't understand why someone would rather live with the child that shows her no love or respect as to the one that would give her life up for her. Because of her age and her health I'm so afraid I will get a call she has passed. I just hope she knows I don't chose to have her in my life because it hurts to bad when I can't do nothing about it and I hope she knows how much I will always love her. Sadly missing my mom.

• by Melissa
• 12 years ago

I wish I had a mother like you! mine just doesn't care. That hurts because I have a daughter and would never treat her the way my mom does me. Thank you to all you mothers out there who do care and are trying to make things better !!

• by Peggy
• 12 years ago

It was not just one daughter that I am trying to win back the love of...This really touched my heart. I couldn't even imagine mom's going through what I have gone through the past year or so...but this proved to me that I am not alone. I am working on getting back into my daughter's lives one step at a time, and ran across this poem.....I can feel your pain, as I have felt the same pain. I pray someday my children will learn to love me, and not expect me to be perfect, as I have accepted them for who they are.

• by Jayne
• 12 years ago

Wow such a beautiful and powerful poem, all of your stories have touched me. My little girl is 5 in a few days (I'm making her card hence the poem search) and your stories got me to remembering about 2 days after she was born I stood over her cot crying my eyes out just at the thought of her becoming a woman and hating me! I always appreciated my mother even though we were apart for large parts of my childhood (due to her having cancer) but I never appreciated how she must of felt until I had a child of my own.

I hope and pray that estranged mothers out there desperate to re-build bonds with their children find some way of making it happen, as I can't even imagine the pain you must feel xxx

• by Ss
• 12 years ago

This is also in my life... It seems that across the world something has changed. Is it television? Is it movies, music... what? It must be something newer... something that causes so much confusion in or children... Something dishonest that misleads. Before WWII I see from research that this is becoming more and more the norm... our children hating or disavowing their homes...

• by Aurora, Tucson AZ
• 13 years ago

I have read this poem, and yes, unfortunately, at one point or another, we all fail! Children, sons, daughters too! While it is admirable that each one of us recognizes our shortcomings, we must accept that it's been done, make the necessary adjustments, and move on to the next one, cuz there will be more! Love, your babies! Not even death will change that! I was a runaway, had an abusive home sometimes, but god, his love, helped me to understand how much I loved my mom, no matter how much I hated the things she said and did! Believe me, yourself, no-one takes the place of mom! If we serve a god who is love, then trust him & the order he put in place now that your mom! Pray for your son's and daughters, god's children too! He will touch their hearts! 2 sons and 4 daughters! My love for them, and let them know, that if they don't agree with the choice god made, talk to him! I love them no matter what, that's a good thing, a god thing! Much love beautiful women and moms! Forgive and love, heal!

• by Dumfries
• 13 years ago

Why do daughters resent their mothers so much when all they are trying to do is keep them on the right pathway in life. It's the shutting out and the needing you when it suits them not when you need them. It's the picking up the pieces and kissing them better, It's the slaps on the face because she thinks you can take it. It's the lifting up and laying down and they expect us always to be so forgiving. The load at times seems so heavy especially when there are other children.

• by Modesto, CA
• 13 years ago

My first born child, my beautiful daughter Gabrielle has removed herself from my life. I spend so much time beating myself up over everything I did wrong as a young single mother. I spend the rest of my time worrying about the choices Gabby is making now. She is almost eighteen now and just seems to hate me. I can't understand how that is possible when I love her so much. I feel like a failure as a Mom. I don't know what to do. Please God look after our children and heal the hurt in their hearts. Grant us another chance to reconnect with our precious gifts from heaven. Amen

• by Brittney, Texas
• 13 years ago

Thank you so much for sharing your poem. Its beautiful. Me and my mother are not close and the part in you poem about the portrait being cracked is how I feel most of the time. Thanks again I finally see through her eyes.

• by Phx, Az
• 13 years ago

My daughter is my 1st born and my best friend. We have always had a great relationship. Tomorrow she turns 24 years old. The day she told me she was pregnant was so surprised but excited. I went out that same day to shop for my grandson-to-be. Made her baby shower and even decorate my grandson's room. But me and her boyfriend don't get along. Well her boyfriend is of another race. I don't like him it's because of how he treats my daughter. He has control issues. And has forbidden me from seeing my daughter or my grandson. Last week it will be 9 months that I have not seen them. I do hate what he has done but very disappointed and hurt with my daughter that she has allowed this to happen. I have always been a good mother and tried to be a great nana. I was very touched with this poem and will sent it to her for her birthday. Just one of the many unresponded emails.

• by Lori, Michigan
• 13 years ago

Everything changes when a woman becomes a mother. The responsibilities are so big and we are held to such a high level of accountability...and we should be, but we are also human and make mistakes, painful mistakes. It is hard being a mother, especially if you didn't have a great childhood. Forgive us children. We are searching and working on our brokenness. We love you all so very much. I am sorry...

• by Carmen, NJ
• 13 years ago

I wanted to let you know that your poem brought tears to my eyes. I am not a mother, but just a daughter. I am 24 years old and trying to get on my feet. And the reason why I wanted to message you was because my mother and I are fighting. I haven't spoken with her for about a month already. I tried reaching out but no answer. I have made the decision of leaving home because of the fighting. My mother has hurt me more than any other person I have known but I still Love her with all my heart. She means the world to me but she refuses to believe that she hurt me. My mother has pride and I am afraid that she will never come around. I pray to god every night for the relationship I always wanted but ever since my father left her, she blames me for everything wrong in her life. Your poem touched me deeply and I know your daughter appreciated every word. Woman to woman, I felt your pain. I am hoping one day my mother and I will be friends again. And I hope this helped your relationship.

• by Robyn, Ohio
• 13 years ago

Does anyone out there know of a website that mothers can talk? I too am a mother where my teenage daughter is no longer talking to me and there is so much pain I carry and I see others do too, if anyone knows of a website can you please post!

• by Rosanne, Pennsylvania
• 13 years ago

Great poem. My fiancée and I are going through the same type of situation. He has a son, 23 and a daughter 24, which has a 3 year old son. They will not speak to him. It's been 9 months. He keeps trying. We have not a clue why they are doing this. We met 1 1/2 yrs ago and were both in marriages that were ending. We are happy now. My 2 daughters, 17 and 20 years old, and her 2 year old son, just moved out. I am not allowed to see my grandson. We were supporting my oldest, her boyfriend and the grandson. None of them worked. The boyfriend treated my grandson bad. I could not take it anymore. He had to leave, so my daughter chose to leave too and they moved in with my brother. My 17 year old was convinced by her sister to go with them and live with my mom. I have not spoke to my siblings or mom in over a year cuz of my divorce. It's like none of them want us happy, so they are using our grandsons to tear our hearts out. Has anyone's story changed yet that posted here? I can't see the light ahead.

• by Sydney, Australia
• 13 years ago

This poem had me weeping at my desk. The love we have for our children will never be fully understood by them, until they have their own families. It's so incredibly sad that even this doesn't always bring daughters back to their mums. Loving so much can hurt!

• by Yvette, St Louis
• 13 years ago

This poem brings back so many memories. I am divorced and lost my three daughters in the process. My youngest daughter has not spoken to me for two years now - the pain and hurt I cannot explain and I know they must be going through similar pain - my life will never be complete without my children - it is a burden I will carry to my grave..

• by Denise, West Sussex
• 13 years ago

My daughter and I haven't spoken for 3 years now, I have also tried to get back in touch with her by email and thru Facebook but she does not acknowledge me. My son lets me know what she is doing now and again but he has been sworn to not tell me her address or phone number and I would not ask him for it, she has shunned all my side of the family and doesn't/will not communicate with any of us. My Dad/her Grandad died last week and she would not/did not even acknowledge that either, I am hurting a lot and miss seeing my grandson who is now nearly 8, don't think this will ever end and I am so sad....

• by Lisa, Uk
• 14 years ago

Wow, that's an amazing poem, I hope you and your daughter find peace, you really love her and that shows <3

• by Bonnie-Lee
• 14 years ago

This is such a lovely poem, I love it so much. It brings back lots of memories that I had when I was younger. I am now a single 25 year old still living with my mum. We had some rough time me and my mum. I love you mum!

• by Amber, Indiana
• 14 years ago

This really touched me as well. My daughter is 15 and hasn't lived with me fully since she was 4. I tucked my tail and took the two measly days a week I was allowed with her. Now she hasn't spoken to me since February. I made mistakes in my teen years and will pay dearly for the rest of my life. I hold onto hope that she will come around. I miss her tremendously and so does her 6 year old brother. It's sad to see all these families torn apart one way or another.

• by Elaine, England
• 14 years ago

Brought a tear to my eye. As a mother we try to be perfect, try to help, try to do what we think is best. Only sometimes it does not work. Sometimes we just need to be silent and wait, be there to pick up the pieces and pray they know that we do things in love. It is hard, I know, to watch them making mistakes and them not to listen and to be criticized , but be strong, show love not anger and if we are lucky, they will respond.

• by Helen, England
• 14 years ago

I have four daughters and no sons.
My first daughter was given up for adoption 28 years ago. This caused more pain than I can ever describe. Part of my life was missing and gone-. last year she found me, which is wonderful. We are now rebuilding a new type of relationship.
My other girls are now teenagers. All very different, each with their own ups and downs

• by Ferguson Sigi
• 14 years ago

I am a mother that loves her children unconditionally, and I have a similar situation, but it is my son. I don't know what I did, but it hurts so very much when your child pulls away from you, you miss out on your wonderful grandchildren, and you don't know what happened. I will always and forever love him and his family, always. Sigi

• by Mary, Utah
• 14 years ago

My daughter and I haven't spoken for almost a year now. Long enough for her to have my first grandson and for me not knowing she was even pregnant. I found out that I was a grandma the day Logan James was born 8-10-10 from my niece texting "Congratulations Grandma." I was in shock! I cried for days. Since then, I have sent her a box of baby gifts, and it was her birthday on 8-20-10, so I also sent her a gift card. I haven't heard anything back from her. I have emailed her, text her, and I found this poem and recently mailed it to her in a card. I pray each day she is going to acknowledge me sometime. I love and miss her so much. I lost her all because of a STUPID abusive relationship I was in. He would not allow me to have any contact with my family. I am sorry my daughter! I am paying the price BIG time! I hope you will forgive me. Love you, Mom

• by Michele
• 14 years ago

This is how I feel only my daughter is just 15 I haven't had her live with me since she was 9. Due to a lot of very sad circumstances we are not together but I would give anything to change that. Her father has only given his side of things so I live for the day when I will see or hold her and have her close to me again.
I will ALWAYS love you Christina and Always have. Your Mummy forever. Xxxxxxx

• by Jennifer.Ontario
• 14 years ago

This poem has touched me in a way I can not explain. I hadn't seen my 4 year old grandson in 3 years up until my mom passed away in May 2010 and still I have not ever seen my 2 year old grandson. Reason.....unknown to me. I guess that's just my daughter.

• by Shanel
• 14 years ago

I cried because in a way, I could hear my mom telling me all the same things, but unfortunately she is one of those mothers who has no clue how much she has hurt me or continues too, even though I have told her and tried to show her in so many ways!

• by Feliciahibbs, Medway Maine
• 14 years ago

This poem has helped me so much just understand what my mother has been trying to do with us even though I have not been with her this whole time and I understand that it is hard on her raising two kids by herself

• by Nicola, Australia
• 14 years ago

You know the funny thing is I suppose this is exactly how my mum feels and I too have a little boy growing inside of me so I guess its no coincidence that I came across this poem. But speaking as a daughter we don't expect our parents to be perfect we just want you to understand that the choices you make affect us, and some mothers are too blind to see the pain we feel no matter what we do or say.

• by kathy tomlinson
• 15 years ago

Thank you for sharing this poem. It says exactly what I have been going through with my daughter. In fact, she had a baby boy in April of this year! Thank you so much again.