I Should've Known

• by Jane, South Africa
• 10 years ago

This is touching. My boyfriend cheated on me with a woman we both worked with. He always told me they were just colleagues till the day she told me they were together and I was just someone he knew. I forgave him but he went back to his ex and came back to me and I still forgave him. A few months later he beat me up 5 times like I was nothing. Some people are just not worth being loved.

• by Bella, Singapore
• 10 years ago

My husband cheated and had an affair after 20 yrs. of marriage. I can take totally relate to this poem except for the last part - ( I've lost the love I once had for him) It made me feel like I was living a lie, and maybe there are other times when I had been lied to but didn't realize becuase I always trusted him. I'm really trying to move past this and hope in time with The Lord's help I can be healed. I'm so traumatized and scarred by this :(. Thank God I have the support of my teenage daughters who had to witness what their dad did, it's heartbreaking!

• by Mia, Australia
• 11 years ago

My dad is cheating on my mum... I found out when I was nine, I just stood there thinking daddy couldn't do that, no he wouldn't do that to me and my mum. Ignorance is bliss. I figured out at a young age that love doesn't exist all that exists in this fucked up world is pain, anger and betrayal. Sad thing is he still does it and my mums still with him. But I have help from this amazing women, who has helped me so much. She has three children and she's like a second mother to me. But what my dad did and everything else that's going on in my life makes me want to self harm I've done it once but I'm getting help. You just have to stay strong.

• by Nicky, San Diego
• 13 years ago

My father cheated on my mom during their entire marriage. My mother turned to alcohol making matters only worse. I contemplated suicide and went through a horrible childhood along with young adulthood. It took me awhile to get it together but one day I quit playing the victim. I survived due to leaning on the Lord and recognizing him and only him as my true father. I honor my parents but realize they are only human and will make mistakes. Don't let the actions of your parents or loved ones destroy you. Lean on the Lord, find a good church to join and someone in a position of trust you can talk to. When you are healed only then can you help your loved ones. You owe it to yourself and them to get yourself healed first. Read your bible daily. Unfortunately, human beings are just that human and they will disappoint you but your true father never will. I pray for healing for all of you and please be strong! Your loved ones need you strong. God Bless you !!!!!

• by Sam
• 13 years ago

My husband left me a month ago for not one but 2 other women , who knows maybe more, I was soo hurt, am hurt, we have been together for seven years and have a 5 and 3 year old, how can someone just abandon their family, it's not fair he gets to move on, I can't move on with two young kids it wouldn't be fair to them, I wish he could pay for all the hurt he has brought to our family, my children now have abandonment issues, since their dad left they won't even let me go to the bathroom alone, or go downstairs for a glass of water, they start crying scared that I'm gonna leave them too, this really fit well, loved the poem, but am sad sooo many of us have to experience this devastating feeling, hope everyone heals well, best of luck

• by Bobbi, Ontario
• 14 years ago

My heart goes out to everyone who has been devastated by a cheater. 5 months ago my sister's husband left her. He cleaned out his stuff while she was at work and waited for her to come home on night shift. When she came home he told her he wanted a divorce! My sister was blindsided.....he told her he was confused, didn't know what he wanted out of life etc etc. A month and a half later things weren't adding up and my sister decided to investigate and she found out that he had a girlfriend. WOW! What a jerk and why drag an innocent person through the dirt...just be a MAN and tell your wife the truth. My sister worried for him day and night that something was really wrong and all along it was for another girl. When will people understand that a marriage is a commitment!!! It takes hard work to make it work. Thanks for posting this poem. I will be sure to show my sister that she isn't alone. He's out there partying and my sister is just taking it one day at a time.

• by Cat, Phoenix
• 14 years ago

I am a 15 year old girl. My parents were married for 25 years. I have 4 sisters, 1 brother, and a half brother ( from my dads previous marriage, before any of us kids were born.) My mom cheated on my dad with a married man. At work! We have been going to court for over 2 years now because my mom wants his money. I could really use some advice on how to help my family. my older sister of 17 tried to kill herself last January. she overdosed. Her best friend took her to the hospital and saved her life. She cuts her wrists. My younger brother wants to live with my dad but my mom wont let him, he says he wants to kill himself, that he wants to die. He's only 8 years old! somebody please help.

• by Lyric Ortiz
• 14 years ago

This breaks my heart. The same thing happened to my mom who was married to my step dad 10 years and he cheated on her every Friday night. I am fourteen and my little bros are 4 and 8 and they're both his. He the only dad I knew but after he hurt her I will never call him dad again. He cheated on her with his cousin (ugh too much family love) and some girl named Tanya. The night my mom found out she put the boys to bed and I stayed up with her (still) and just let her cry herself to sleep her then I'd go to bed. I felt like hurting him in some way. The boys are lost without their dad. I don't know what to do anymore. How can I help???

• by Sam
• 14 years ago

I married the most gentle and sweet man in the world but forgot to be wise about researching the truth in God's word about generational curses. My husband is a product of a broken home. I am too. We fell madly in love and when the finances took a nose dive the addictions surfaced. First heavy alcohol, always tobacco then cocaine. Still a loving husband so I forgave. Then on March 26 2010 I found out he was seeing another woman. They had not consummated the relationship, I forgave him but he had kept seeing her. They consummated the relationship on 4 13, that week the affair ended. I felt like someone had cut me down the middle from top to bottom and had poured gasoline down the cut and had lit me on fire. It's been just about 6 months and with daily reading of the Holy scriptures, counseling, solitude and a ton of daily forgiveness and repentance we are still together and more real than ever, still the affair burned like nothing else had. This poem touched my soul. Thank you!

• by Maria, Hesperia
• 14 years ago

I have been with my husband since high school now we are in our 30's. He decided to cheat on me with a former student of a college he worked at. It was going on for 3 months and he did everything possible with her that he would do with me. I am hurting so much inside that I feel I'm going insane. This poem has touched my heart in many was. I am trying to be strong for our children and for myself. Thank you for this very helpful poem. Be strong we are all wonderful women with husband's that made a horrible mistake.

• by Amy, WA
• 14 years ago

I just found out as well that my husband has been cheating on me with his married boss. It has been going on for over 2 months. I am in the same pain as you. I don't sleep or eat. I blame them both for what has happened because they both knew the other was married with kids. I just want to say what a beautiful poem that is. Every word of it touched me and I'm so glad I found it. Thank you.