Courage To Leave Abusive Relationship

• by Noah Sanchez, Amarillo, Texas
• 3 years ago

I've heard so many stories from women who've been in abusive relationships. But my question is why do they keep going back? I was in a relationship with a woman who had an abusive ex-husband. We dated for a year and a half. Until one day she wanted out of our relationship because she said to me that I was way too good for her, and she couldn't handle it. I was confused because I was treating her with kindness and respecting her as a woman. Needless to, say she left me to go back to her ex.

Well, a couple of months passed, and he started beating her again. He beat her so badly that I'm surprised she made it out alive. Well, he was placed in jail and she had moved on elsewhere. But there is one thing that I question...no matter how good or kind I treat a lady, I always end up a friend, never the boyfriend. My mother raised me on how to treat a lady and til this day I will never enter a married woman's home unless the husband is present.

• by Alyssa
• 4 years ago

I can relate to your story. I met a guy when I was 25-27 years old. In the beginning, everything was great. Then his true colors showed. He would yell at me and tell me I’m worthless, that no man wanted to put up with me. He would tell me that my oldest daughter was better off without me. I got addicted to pain pills because that was my only escape. I wasn’t allowed to see my oldest. He would tell me that my family didn’t want me, that they didn’t like me. Then my youngest was born and my mom didn’t come, and I was upset by it, and he would tell me that my mom was a whore and that I was going to be like her. He would rape me, and he would make me have sex with other people. On October 10, 2016, I got a call that my grandfather passed away. He told me that if I left, he would get my kids taken away from me and that I was a lousy mother. In late November, I had enough courage to leave him with the help of my family. Now my younger daughter is going to be 4, and he hasn’t seen her or asked about it.

• by Hurt Soul
• 4 years ago

Ever met a man you felt would love you forever? “Baby, I won't do it again. I promise. NEVER.” Most of us have fallen for these words, never for the action. Not even weeks later you see yourself catching a smacking. He is fine, sweet to and around others. The whole family loves him, even your mother. But what they don't know is what we do not tell. We hide in the house when our skin has a swell, one slap, two knots. When will this stop? Scared to say anything wrong because you might get dropped. Get up, get out, get away from this man ‘cause baby you’re worth more than what he makes you feel. You're a queen, you're a star. Shine bright. You'll go far.

• by Illianna Pettway
• 5 years ago

I can't leave. I have no one. He loves me. Suck it up. These are the things I would tell myself. I used to have so much confidence, so much go. I met him and it was instant love. The first 4 years I wasn't my best. I was spoiled my whole life and I brought that into my relationship. Time passed I'm in a town with only his friends and family. He beats me and blames me. You're pathetic. You're worthless. I'll kill you was a everyday notion, not one I'm sorry. I'm still here crying because I feel I turned him into this monster and I am holding onto the memory of him.

• by Mary, Reservior
• 11 years ago

He was the only one that ever made me happy, yet he was the one who tore my whole life apart. I was the happiest I had ever been in the first two months of out relationship. I even told him why my mother passed away when I was 12, which is a story only about 3 people know. At about the three month mark he started to blame me for things that had gone wrong even if they had absolutely nothing to do with me and he would threaten to kill himself right in front of me. I would do everything in my power of course to keep that from happening, like any good girlfriend should do. He had done this about 7 times during our relationship and had even put a knife to my throat and threatened to kill me with him so we would die together. Even now I still miss and love him. It's been about a year now but I know that if I didn't leave then it would be my name on the grave stone... not his!

• by Jasmine
• 13 years ago

I fell in love with a guy when I was 16...he was 17....I just knew in my heart that this was the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I gave him everything I had to offer mind, body, and soul...the first 2 months was amazing I felt like things could not get any better...he made me smile all the time...he made my knee's shake when he looked at me...and when he would look me in the eyes smile and say baby I love you I felt that it was true...I never thought he would do ANYTHING to harm me in any way...and then he started to change! He began to call me horrible names, saying things to me that no one should ever say. He got upset one day over something so petty and I tried comforting him you know like a girlfriend is SUPPOSE to do and he turned on me and hit me in my face and then began to drag me by my hair and slam me to the floor...I should have left him then but I was young and in love...I thought ok he said he was sorry and that it would NEVER happen again...but needless to say it did...then I became pregnant by him and he dragged me across his bedroom floor when I was 8 months and threatened to kill me and leave me in the woods....but I have a beautiful 2 month old son and I love him with all my heart I will never put myself in a situation like this ever again!