My Brother, My Friend

• by Pamela Angel
• 7 years ago

My brother, age 50, also died in a fire. He was put on a ventilator for 2 days. My family and I lived thousands of miles away from him. It was 5 years since we had seen him, except for a few minutes on FaceTime while he was in hospital hooked up to a ventilator. This is the last image I have of my brother. My family decided to unplug the ventilator as he had no brain activity. I couldn't make that decision, even though it was best for him. I felt like it was too final and I was and am still not ready to say goodbye. We had our differences in life but had all the love in the world. He was my second dad, as my dad passed years before. He felt like he was s failure because he felt he needed to take care of us 'girls.' He was far from a failure; he was my inspiration. I only hope he knows that. He was so very proud of me as I was going through a separation and taking care of 2 small kids.
Love,
Pam & kids

• by North Dakota
• 11 years ago

"Don't question God that's what they say. But who can explain why they took my brother away" really hit home! I can relate to this poem so much when my brother died I had the same feelings! I wanted someone to blame and the only one I could think to blame was God. Being brought up in a religious family I struggled with this! I didn't want to attend church anymore and I was just plain angry. I felt like I should be strong for my parents so I just stayed away in fear of failing. No one can tell you how to grieve everyone has their own way. But if it helps anyone I believe it was ok to be mad at God for awhile, yell at him he understands, but eventually I hope I and anyone else going through something as awful as losing a loved one can make peace with it. My brother died the same day we buried my cousin both deaths were unexpected and devastating. One thing a man said at my cousin's funeral that helps to remind myself is that "we may not agree with God's timing but its never wrong"

• by Clairton Pay
• 12 years ago

My big brother my best friend past June 4. 2001 . The day he died I lost so much half of my heart and soul. I watched him take his last breath and all I could do was stare at him in complete fear. I didn't want him to leave me. The pain is still so real and tears fall often. He was only 26 years old. Miss him every minute of the day. Rest in heavenly peace Shawn Davis.

• by Charlotte Carey
• 13 years ago

My only brother Cory was killed in a plane crash on 5th October his 41st birthday was October 4th. All nine men on that flight died in the Bahamas in 2011. Only got to wish him happy birthday.... Never got to say good by

• by Rachel Mazi, London
• 13 years ago

This story reminds me of my immediate elder brother who passed away four days ago. I don't how to cope, we were very close, inseparable, although he was in Nigeria, but the distance never made any difference. We chat every other day. Now that he is gone. I cry everyday, I don't how to cope knowing that I will never see or hear his voice again. I loved my brother so much.

• by Melanie
• 13 years ago

My big brother was 23 years old when he died it's been 3 years to the day since I last seen his face..... That day is still so vivid like it happened just yesterday.

I miss you brother

• by Summer, Highpoint N.C.
• 13 years ago

I feel your pain I am only 12. I met my brother Justin the first time ever in 2010. He was 18 it felt weird but awesome but like 2 months later he got in a car accident but the worst part is I never got to hug him or tell him goodbye but now even thinking about him makes me cry:( (he was my half brother but I loved him like no other)

• by Shahara, Laguna
• 13 years ago

this is very touching, this is what I feel..2 months ago my Big Bro Passed away..very unexpected, until now I ask God, why my loving Brother he is only 21 and a professional...but God didn't answer. I don't understand why my brother. I really miss him, that makes me crazy thinking him...I loved him very much. He is not just a brother but a father also to me..

• by Charlene, Rainsville Al.
• 13 years ago

I know its hard to lose a sibling. For I lost my older brother Sep 16 1995. He drowned, he was 30 years old. It's been really hard my parents has not been the same since. I miss him so much. And my parents think of him all the time I know he is in a better place. Our family has not been the same .We will never forget him. He sure has been missed. But he's in heaven I know and one day we will meet again.

• by Roxane Faulkner
• 14 years ago

I know the pain you are feeling. I lost my brother in a fire as well. It has been a little over 8 years now but it seems like the pain never goes away. I miss him so much.
I'm very sorry for your loss.

• by cynthia
• 16 years ago

I lost my brother 13 days ago it was unexpected. He was only 33 years old . The pain in my heart is to much to bear.

• by daisy
• 16 years ago

I know how you feel my big bro bubba as I called him is in coma but it seems like he has passed into a better life it hurts seeing them that way I'm only 15 and I wish there was a way to make everything better I even wish I could die and he could live..........

• by Paylah
• 16 years ago

This poem reminds me of my big brother all the way. I miss him so much!!!!!!! He died November 5, 2002. 3 days after my mama's birthday at 5:30 a.m. when I called my daddy house n my sister answered the phone crying I knew something was wrong. I just never knew it was the fact that my brother died. I miss having that big brother figure in my life. p.c. (my deceased brother) I know you r watching everything I do so I know you r watching me type this. I just want you to know that I miss you so much.