Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.
Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
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Death Is Nothing At All
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Carolina,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My heart hurts for you.
The words you use to describe your relationship with your husband are precisely what I use for my relationship with Gene. I had him for 25 incredible years, then lost him to complications related to ALS on November 25th, 2020. He was my everything.
As you approach your husband's death anniversary, I hope you can find a way to celebrate his life as well as fully feel the myriad of emotions that will come your way.
We never heal entirely but find a way to live in a "new normal." Well, I don't know if that's precisely accurate. Nothing feels genuinely normal to me, even after three years.
Sharing our grief does make it easier. Say your husband's name. Talk to him if it feels right. Know you are not alone.